10 Ep#503 Pharisaism, Narcissism, and Worthlessness

Before we can truly become “little,” we must confront the Pharisee in ourselves. Pharisaism is religious narcissism. The Bible calls it “insolent pride.” 

The label “narcissist” is widely deployed to refer to people who appear to be too full of themselves, but the truth is, we all have selfish, narcissistic tendencies to some degree that we must wrestle with. I believe this “spirit of judgment” is the main wound of the Fall. Jesus’ most dire warnings and strongest words were for the blind Pharisees.
Clinically, narcissism is a spectrum, and there are three “types” that give us useful information on how to deal with it in ourselves and others. Ultimately, Paul says we must “come out!” and unto our Heavenly Father in order to heal this father wound.
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O | Observe (Connect the passage to your life and recent events.)

Are you narcissistic? How narcissistic are you? How do you feel about yourself, knowing you have narcissistic tendencies? 

Have you identified the projections inherent in your narcissism? What do you want to say to the Holy Spirit about that?

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Dearest Jesus, my love, in the words of little Therese, “For me to become great is impossible.” Help me bear with myself and my many imperfections as I seek to follow her means of getting to heaven by a little way–very short and very straight, The Little Way of the Child. Amen +

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What We Discussed | Show Notes


Minutes 00:00-12:00 – Narcissistic Personality Inventory; Jordan Peterson’s Understand Myself personality quiz; Narcissus

Minutes 12:01-24:00 – Traits of narcissism; it’s a spectrum; the grandiosity and shame yo-yo  

Minutes 24:01-36:00 – Three types of narcissism: 1) abuse and neglect; 2) inter-generational; 3) entitlement

Minutes 36:01-48:00 – Appeal to the relationship; narcissism as a worthlessness identity wound, a father wound; worthless and Belial; “Come out!”


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