04_It’s About You, Not Them, Cherished Series – Premium Content

When pop quizzes come to us to through people we love, especially people we’re married to, the temptation is to focus on them – their faults, their meanness, their motives. But those pop quizzes are about us, not them. The Holy Spirit is trying to heal us of wounds that are deeper and older than the offense in front of us. 

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L | Listen (Receive the Word via audio or video.)

O | Observe (Connect the passage to your life and recent events.)

What was your last pop quiz with someone you live with, particularly your spouse? What was under your anger or irritation? What does the Holy Spirit want you to know about that? Perhaps you’d like to ask Him, now. 

V | Verbalize (Pray about your thoughts and emotions.)

Ask Him. Tell Him everything in your heart right now. Take the risk, and ask Him to help you discern His message under the anger and hurt. 

Remembering that He loves you and that you are in His presence, talk to God about the particulars of your O – Observe step. You may want to write your reflections in your LOVE the Word® journal. Or, get a free journal page and guide in the right-hand margin.

E | Entrust (May it be done to me according to your word!)

Come Holy Spirit, fill the hearts of Your faithful. Enkindle in them the fire of Your love, and there shall be a new creation, and You shall renew the face of the earth. Amen. +


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What We Discussed | Show Notes


Minutes 00:12:00 – Genesis, before and after the fall; authority and control issues

Minutes 12:01-24:00 – “Humanity was given to woman” (JPII and Edith Stein [St. Theresa Benedicta of the Cross]); woman as the giver of life

Minutes 24:01-36:00 – disorder in our vocations, particularly marriage

Minutes 36:01-48:00 – exhortation to re-order authority properly, according to biblical principles


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