08 Ep#501 How Pharisaism Blocks Healing Communion

Listen, Pharisee, the reason you’re lonely, the reason you don’t feel “chosen,” the reason God hasn’t thrown you a party (Parable of the Prodigal), is because you’re full of judgments that block communion within yourself and between you and the Father, so that you can’t feel comfortable enough with Him to even ask for a party. And if he threw you one now, in the state of Pharisaism you’re in, you’d just condemn yourself for wastefulness and not deserving it.

As soon as we turn back to our inner child, as soon as we extend some sympathy, boundaries, and forgiveness – for ourselves and others – the Pharisee steps in to judge: “How dare you let yourself or them get away with that!”

Pharisaism is the wound of the world, because while the “sinful” have obvious evidence of their need for healing love, the Pharisee has his shit together, and therefore cannot see the dark, dead judgments inside himself that prevent healing communion.  

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L | Listen (Receive the Word via audio or video.)

O | Observe (Connect the passage to your life and recent events.)

Did the Holy Spirit bring to mind a judgment that you’ve been projecting onto others or Him in this episode? Can you discern the contradiction underneath with Him?

V | Verbalize (Pray about your thoughts and emotions.)

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Dearest Jesus, my love, in the words of little Therese, “For me to become great is impossible.” Help me bear with myself and my many imperfections as I seek to follow her means of getting to heaven by a little way–very short and very straight, The Little Way of the Child. Amen +

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What We Discussed | Show Notes


Minutes 00:00-12:00 – How the inner Pharisee steps into the Little Way process

Minutes 12:01-24:00 – Unforgiveness and Pharisees, Sadducees, scribes; Catholics and Protestants; Pharisaism as anger at self and God

Minutes 24:01-36:00 – Psychology 101 on judgments as projections; fear of God as projection of anger

Minutes 36:01-48:00 – Seeing and accepting personality flaws (underneath behavior issues) without allowing them to rule; how judgments in our vocations are meant to help us “see” and experience ourselves, God, and others in communion


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